Being a dad that loves video games

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Possibly the most important issue facing fathers today.

Okay, okay, it is already time to backtrack a little bit. I am aware that this is a very minor issue, especially in the important scheme of fatherhood – don’t get your Wranglers in a wad. The important issues of fatherhood revolve around growing your child into a respectful, helpful, hardworking, loving adult. See? I get it.

Being a Dad that plays games is just an interesting aside to fatherhood that I would like to take a moment to think about. I have already been playing games less and less as life has gone on. Will that desire just evaporate completely once all the new responsibilities arise? Will I just play one night a week once the kids is asleep, or will exhaustion take precedence?

In the early going, sleep will likely be deemed more important. Let’s be realistic.

I love video games and will probably never stop playing completely. There will need to be balance though as I also want to set correct examples for my son and any other future kids. There is nothing wrong with spending free time doing something fun and relaxing like playing a video game. Knowing when those times are appropriate will be important lessons.

These gloves seem cumbersome, but I love where their heads are. Photo from Atchuup.com

Also, it isn’t like a three year old is going to see you playing a fun-looking game and just continue on his merry way. How early should games be introduced? I got a Game Boy at 6 and got a console (GameCube) probably around 10 or so. Those ages seem reasonable, but our son will grow up with game systems already in the house.

I think that many video games are excellent for critical thinking, problem solving, vocabulary growth, and competition. I also understand that reading, exercise, and imaginative play are more important, especially in the early stages. Finding a balance will be an interesting challenge. Maybe the little fella will not even like video games; who knows.

Not everyone gets it, but it is more than possible to create great memories playing games. My Dad and I played NBA Live against each other for multiple hours each week. Those were great memories, but so were playing Frisbee, walking in the woods, and hitting off the baseball tee and playing catch. Balance is possible.


My own desire for gaming, my son’s, and the progression of how my son will choose to consume media and entertainment will all be very interesting going forward. Just one very small aspect in the very large future I will share with my son. I just cannot be more excited as every aspect of our family’s new life unfolds.

Dad behavior: We have news!

Things are really changing in my life so I thought the blog needed a bit of an update.

If you didn’t already know (or are bad with clues), Emily and I are expecting a baby on August 2nd! We are already about halfway through the pregnancy. We were anxious to find out the gender, so we shelled out for an early ultrasound at an independent facility at around 15 weeks. Once we knew that was an option, we could not help ourselves!

It’s a boy! We would of course be happy either way, but a little fella is a new and exciting experience for our family. Emily has two sisters that have blessed us with three nieces. We were starting to think that her side just didn’t do dudes (say that three times fast). Somehow, we apparently found a way!

Celebrating in different, but equally blue ways.

Our news came on the heels of other big family happenings. With my sister’s recent engagement that we are all very pleased about, it has been a hilariously emotional time for my Mother. When we first told my parents, I took advantage of the situation as often as possible – entering rooms and announcing “Daddy’s here!” to make her burst into tears. Maybe that’s terrible, but what are sons for?

Wait… karma is going to be intense isn’t it?

New name, largely similar blog content

For the most part, this blog will be used for the same stuff. Sports, video games, strange adventures; these are fatherly things, yeah? Of course now there will also be Dad/parent-specific stuff as well. I’M GOING TO BE A DAD. Sorry, I’ve been blurting that a lot lately.

You remember my first time riding a bike? Well I’ve yet to have my first time changing a diaper too, so… yeah. Look forward to that.

The dork in this picture somehow got this girl to stick around long enough to become parents together at 26. Babies havin’ babies.

Emily and I are wildly excited, terrified, and antsy to have this little guy. It is going to be an experience unlike any other, but our lives have been building to this point for a long time and we are ready. Probably. Maybe.

I have already been privately noting some of my thoughts, fears, and excitement, so there will be some interesting Dad behavior posted here soon enough. As usual, thanks for coming along for the ride. Wish us luck!

Grown Gaming – Single Player Vs. Multiplayer

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As you may know – When I write a video game thing, I send that thing over to Grown Gaming.

Growngaming.com is just what it sounds like. It is a website dedicated to providing video game content to the “grown” gamer. I identify with this group of individuals who are at the stage in which video games do not come first.

The site has reviews, news, and opinions about everything related to gaming. My most recent article is about the player preference between single player or multiplayer gaming (solo vs. playing with friends). Being grown gamers, there is not always time to play everything you want. Would you rather use that time to immerse yourself in a single player adventure like Skyrim? Or hop online to play Call of Duty with friends/internet folk?

I had a little trouble formatting on the site and adjusting some headers, but hey I’m human. Forgive me? Good. I break down the options in this article and give a touch of my own personal preference towards the end. Check it out…. HERE.

Uber Adventures

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I teased you a while back saying that I had some good Uber experiences to share with you. I apologize for keeping you waiting.

As I’ve mentioned previously, I am not the most driven of drivers (just assume that all of my puns are intended). I only give a few rides a month, usually on my lunch break when I don’t have anything else to do. Somehow, I still manage to have some very interesting individuals each time.

Perhaps if I drove more often, I would become numb to the weirdness. Maybe that’s reason enough to do it sparingly – the weirdness provides solid writing material.

We have had Uber in Springfield for over a year now, but many people are still new to the ride-hailing app. I’ve had a few first-time users and they always ask: “Should we tip you?” The answer I give is very humble and polite, but of course my preferred answer would be “40% is pretty standard” or something
like that.

Usually I am honest and tell them it is optional, but tips are not included in the base fare. Tipping is rare, but always appreciated.

Driving ladies in my Charger since the mid/late 2000’s

One ride that caught me off guard happened pretty early in my driving tenure. I picked up a young woman visiting from Florida at a sushi restaurant and she sat in the front seat. Usually the only individuals that go for the front seat or solo male riders, but that isn’t what caught me off guard.

“Can I use dat auxiliary cord?” I obliged and gave her full control of music duties. We bumped to some pretty heavy rap the whole way to her destination. Not the weirdest ride I suppose, but it was certainly unexpected.

It wasn’t nearly as stressful as driving a very pregnant lady to her job. Again, not the strangest ride, but I went through so many scenarios in my head that involved me delivering a baby in my backseat. Such are the fears of the Uber driver.

I realized another fear of an Uber driver when the app took me to wrong destination during another ride. I had picked up a couple of gentlemen at the mall, once they figured out how exit the building. One was Polish and the other was British – they were in town for a conference.

The app does not do a great job of telling you your destination, but I eventually deduced that we were headed for the airport. We talked on the way about European weather, currency differences, global communication for business, and the like. I was enjoying the conversation and just blindly following the route, even though I know how to get to the airport…

It took us to a locked gate at the very back of the airfield. It required a 10 minute detour to get back around the whole thing. Luckily they didn’t seem to be late, so it wasn’t a big deal, just a tad embarrassing. I stopped charging them of course once I realized the mistake. They still gave me the most
generous tip I’ve ever received. Long live the Queen.

Foreign individuals make up a decent demographic of the daytime riders. I took a fellow Uber driver from Chile to get a haircut. He thought I spoke Chilean because I said “gotcha”. Apparently “cotcha” essentially means “cool” in Chilean. I’m more worldly than I realized.

There is certainly local flavor as well, from known radio hosts to a pair of Springfield Cardinals headed for the pool, after Brown Derby of course. Only one spoke English. I assume they both made it to the big leagues since then.

I have a couple of my most interesting trips still in my back pocket. They are long, so they will likely require their own blog post each. Stay tuned, people. Check out some of the stuff below to see what I’ve been up to and why my posts have been more sporadic recently. I’m going to try and ramp it back up, so thanks for checking in and I hope you’ll be back!

The Basketball Movement

I have taken over the blog for The Basketball Movement

I’ve spoken about this previously, but you may have noticed that there have been less and less articles posted here. I am preparing to get this blog back on track and produce more original content.

Video game articles I write have been going towards Grown Gaming and Thunder articles I write have been going to Thunderous Intentions. These are both on a volunteer basis.

I am now writing basketball-related articles of all kinds for The Basketball Movement as the sole contributor to their blog. My services earn me a little compensation, so I am now a professional writer!

The Basketball Movement is based out of Nixa in what used to be known as Fox Hollow. They are striving to be the top basketball training service in this part of the country.

I write for them about their services, news from prep to pro, and motivational pieces for athletes or anyone striving to improve their craft.

I am excited about this opportunity and look forward to continued collaboration with The Movement.

As I mentioned, I am looking to ramp up this site again as well, so keep an eye out for new stuff. Thanks for your support! I love you.

Thunderous dunk contest

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NBA All-Star weekend is near. The dunk contest is a personal favorite. The Oklahoma City Thunder are another personal favorite.

What if the Oklahoma City Thunder squad held a dunk contest just between themselves? Would Westbrook’s ferocity be too much for the other players to overcome? Paul George has some real dunk contest experience that could be beneficial.

I do my best to come up with how this contest would go in my latest feature for Thunderous Intentions. It is a strange narrative that I think you will enjoy! Just click… HERE.

The struggle of the adult gamer

Finding time for anything can seem like a chore when you’re adulting.

Work, relationships, social relevance in general – these are things that are very important and contribute to the lessening of hobby time. Plenty of people find time for their favorite TV shows, but what about movies? Reading? Video games??

Being a grown gamer can be tough, but it’s worth it to do what you love. I wrote my thoughts about it here: Check it out!

Quick blog update!

Wil, you seem to have really slowed down on you blog content. Are you giving up on your dreams? Fading into obscurity?

I appreciate your concern, dedicated fan. Fear not! I have certainly not given up on my dreams and am still making efforts to remain as far from obscurity as possible. Many of these efforts are just not seen here on my personal blog.

As I have mentioned previously, I have become a contributor for Thunderous Intentions and Grown Gaming. Since I was already only writing a few posts a week, a lot of my posts are now going through those avenues.

One of the primary goals of this blog is for me to establish varied writing samples. I am interested in both sports and entertainment writing, so it makes sense for me to put a lot of that style of content on the more trafficked and professional web pages. I appreciate you noticing me, but I would like for others to notice me as well!

I have been learning a lot about formatting and search engine optimization. I’m not necessarily going to make all of these posts super SEO friendly, because I still just want for this to be a place where I can jot down thoughts and write what I want and how I want.

There will still be a flow of content here, but for anything video game or Thunder related, you know where to go. I love you.

So This is Christmas

Christmas – it’s the most wonderful time of the year, so they say. By “they” I am mostly referring to my wife. We all know someone who takes holiday cheer very seriously. You may even be that person. I’m not here to knock that. In fact, I think that those are the people that make the Christmas season as great as it is.

December almost entirely revolves around Christmas (sorry, winter birthday folks). For many, this is the busiest time of the year. Work year-ends are needing to be closed out, everyone’s kid has a dreaded Christmas special at church or school (even though they usually wind up being adorable/hilarious), and you have to buy presents for what feels like everyone you know on a first-name basis. Though all that makes the season stressful, it is also a time for people to be thankful, generous, and cheerful. Those are good things. I like those things.

If you are like me, you accumulate presents for friends and family slowly. My wife and I do most shopping simultaneously, but the gifts I get for her or any others I’m responsible for, I buy one at a time for about a month leading up to Christmas. Some buy their Christmas gifts at Walgreens late on Christmas Eve. I have a coworker that I am fairly sure was done shopping by Halloween. The holidays aren’t all about the presents, but giving and getting makes for a pretty good time. Let’s not pretend the presents aren’t one of the most fun parts of Christmas.


I talk a big game about there being no Christmas trees in our house prior to Thanksgiving. I do have to be honest though that every year, our house really does look its best when we have our Christmas stuff up in all its glory. Well played, wife. The fake tree is nice and easy, but real trees are one of my favorite Christmas memories as a kid.

Like a lot of memories, I appreciate cutting down a tree with my Dad more now than I did at the time. Freezing my toes and taking turns dragging a tree across the field wasn’t the first thing I looked forward to at Christmas. However, bundling up and marching towards the woods with my Dad, our dog Oliver happily bounding ahead, and maybe even a cat or two joining us on our journey was a pretty darn good time. Pops did most of the cutting since all we had was a rusty handsaw. He wasn’t quite Clark Griswold, but it was a joyous occasion that brought a sense of accomplishment when we hoisted up the tree in the house.

Uncle Shae (always in shorts), me (not helping), and Dad (head in a tree)

Having Christmas Eve at my grandparent’s house and Christmas morning at my parents is a tradition that has never left my life. My wife’s family has been very accommodating in having Christmas brunch/lunch and allowing this ritual to continue. Even though I touted the fun of the presents, it really is family and loved ones that make this a special time of year.

I want to thank all of the Christmas fanatics out there for making this season go. The rest of us may roll our eyes at the Christmas music, tree decorating, and silly traditions, but we need all of that in our lives. The magic doesn’t have to stop when you aren’t a kid anymore. Use the opportunities that Christmas provides to let your family and friends know you love and appreciate them. Long live all of the goofy traditions and may all your Christmases be merry and illuminated! Or something.

Thunderous Intentions: The Intriguing Steven Adams

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I have recently become a contributor for thunderousintentions.com! It is a website dedicated to bringing just the news that Oklahoma City Thunder fans want to hear. There are breaking news stories, game previews, postgame analysis, and much more.

I wrote an opinion piece for them explaining that Steven Adams is not only their most interesting player, but possibly one of the most interesting players in the NBA. Read it here:

https://thunderousintentions.com/2017/12/10/steven-adams-most-interesting-man-on-okc-thunder/