You can’t just be a “fun dad”

When envisioning fatherhood, it isn’t a stretch to say that guys like to imagine being a fun dad.

In public, you come across many different kinds of parents. Some of the seemingly happiest are the ones that are carefree, playful, and forgiving. Everyone is different, but I would imagine that when many young men imagine fatherhood for themselves, they do so by envisioning tossing their baby in the air, playing catch out back, and razzing their kids about girls/boys.

As it often is, the reality is a bit different than what you may see out and about or imagine in your mind. Renowned philosopher and boxer, Mike Tyson once said something along the lines of “everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.” In parenting, the punch in the face is more like: getting vomited on, being up all night, and foregoing fun activities.

You can’t just be a “fun dad” 24/7 – that just isn’t realistic. You will need to get your hands dirty, dive in on chores and blown-out diapers, console worn-out kids and/or their mom, and (in my experience) sweat at all hours of the day. So much sweat. All the sweat.

Photo of a sick boyo, moments before aforementioned vomiting. RIP, loveseat.

So being just the fun dad at all times is probably just not going to happen. Every literal second won’t always be fun.

What a downer right? Don’t worry, I’ve found that as a dad, there is so much silver lining lying around that you could probably use it all to make a good 25 to 30 swords. Those may not be useful in this day and age, but would still be pretty dope.

The good (great, actually) news is that though there are so many ways to remain a fun dad in all situations, even if every single moment is a stretch. The biggest key is to smile. Happiness and humor are applicable in almost all situations. Humor less-so, as sometimes s*** can get pretty real/devastating, but you know what I’m getting at.

Discipline is admittedly something with which I have little experience, as my son only just turned one. Those times aren’t “fun dad” times, but teaching opportunities, which are much more important. Being an ally for your child is a better goal than being their friend. I mean, you can still be their friend too. I’m just saying. Priorities.

Positivity is important because your kids are always looking at you and learning. Even when things aren’t fun, be positive, encouraging, and understanding.

Those parents that always seem upbeat, laid-back, and fun are having tough times too that you don’t always see. Kids are hard, but also rewarding, and yes, a ton of fun. A fun dad that is also a good dad is being positive and energetic with his kids, but also helpful, constructive, and serious when need be.

If you are a good dad, then you are already interacting in positive ways with your kids daily, so you will be a fun dad too. So, don’t focus on being carefree and fun; focus on being the involved, well-rounded good dad that your kids need.

Good luck with that, the vomit, and the sweating. So much sweating.

Star Wars fatigue

There has been a lot of online talk recently about Star Wars fatigue with all the movies coming out. Do I have it?

Let’s preface this by saying: there is a lot of online talk about everything. Most of the “voices” involved in such things are haters. Why the internet is such a hateful, negative place is a question for another time.

Star Wars fatigue is a legitimate issue though (as legitimate an “issue” as something like this can be anyway (first-world problems)). The same questions arise in other places too, like the Marvel movies, Call of Duty, and other things that keep churning out like clockwork.

So is Star Wars fatigue real? Yes. Have I experienced it?

If you can’t view media or listen to the above video: I said no. No, I have not experienced Star Wars fatigue.

Honestly, it is understandable that some individuals may be getting a bit tired of Star Wars. A movie per year, video games, books, toys – Disney is really milking this multi-billion dollar purchase. Wouldn’t you if you made a multi-billion dollar purchase?

Why was the franchise so expensive to buy in the first place? People love it. Millions of people love it.

So, many will get fatigued by the influx of new stuff. Particularly old heads that think there hasn’t been a good Star Wars movie since 1983. These sour people are unfortunately blinded by nostalgia and cannot be convinced otherwise. You still know they’re shelling out to go see each movie, even if only to complain about it later in some comment section somewhere.

These are the same people that will say Michael Jordan is the unquestioned greatest even if LeBron averages 60 points this year.

Disney has even reportedly nixed some new movie ideas or at least put them off because of less-than-ideal receptions to The Last Jedi and Solo. A crying shame I say.

For me, there will never be enough Star Wars. I was first exposed to the originals, grew up with the prequels, and was thrilled when the sequels started coming out recently. The spin-offs and side-stories like Rogue One and Solo are just what the doctor ordered as well.

Even with The Last Jedi, which took things in some odd directions, I was able to compartmentalize and appreciate any fan service, lightsaber action, and Chewbacca sightings I could get.

Expectations shouldn’t be for each movie to be better than the last, but for there to be dramatic conflicts, fantastic locals, droids aplenty, and some magic via the force.

I am confident in each movie delivering that, so I say bring it on. A movie each year, more books than I could ever read, Star Wars: Galaxy of Heroes on my phone, Star Wars Jedi: Fallen Order on Xbox later this year… I’m soaking it up as every fan should be.

Get on board nerds! It is going to be a long ride, so please enjoy it with me!

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